Summer is the perfect time to put yourself out there. The weather is nice, you’re traveling more, and there’s a good chance you’re meeting new people. This also makes summer a perfect time for romance. If you’re currently on the market, there are some things you should consider before dating someone new.
First, it’s important to address any past trauma. You also want to set expectations for yourself, your future partner, and the relationship. Here are more ways to get ready for summer romance:
1. Make Sure It’s the Right Time
While dating can be fun, it takes a lot of energy. You have to put yourself out there to meet someone, then take time to get to know them. Again, this could be a fun experience — but only if you’re ready for it.
Before entering the dating world this summer, make sure the timing is right. If you’re still grieving a past relationship or struggling with your mental health, it’s not the best time to start dating. On the other hand, if you feel confident and excited to enter the dating world, you’re probably ready.
Keep in mind, though, that you don’t have to jump back into dating if you don’t want to. If you’re feeling drained, it may be time to take a break and focus on yourself.
2. Review Your Sexual Health
Before starting a summer romance, take the time to review your sexual health. You might even consider getting a prescription for birth control. Taking birth control doesn’t mean you have to have sex. However, it’s a good way to ensure you’re prepared when/if the time comes.
You should also get tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Most people don’t realize just how common STIs are because many don’t have symptoms. The only way to know if you’re positive is with testing.
You can even test yourself at home and receive your results virtually. This is a great option if you aren’t comfortable getting tested at the doctor’s office and want more privacy.
3. Cut Ties With Your Past Relationships
To fully commit to a new relationship, you have to cut ties with your past ones. That said, getting over an ex isn’t easy. Regardless of how long you were together or how serious the relationship was, cutting ties can be challenging.
That’s why it’s important to take time to heal from your break-up before reentering the dating world. Spend some time investing in yourself. Practice self-love and do things that make you happy.
You might also consider deleting or blocking your ex to create some distance so you can heal. It may sound childish, but sometimes the best way to move on is to stop all communication. Don’t be afraid to do what you need to heal.
4. Figure Out What You Want
Do you know what you’re looking for in your next relationship? It’s a good idea to take time to figure that out before you start dating. Remember the saying, if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything? Well, that’s true with dating. Without standards or expectations, you’ll tolerate any kind of behavior — and that’s not a good thing.
A great way to set standards is to reflect on your past relationships. What are some things your ex did that you liked? What are some things you disliked? Let the answers help you create your standards.
Also, consider your life in general. Where do you see yourself in a year or even five years? The person you’re with should have a similar future in mind, so look for qualities and interests that align with yours.
5. Make Sure You Have a Life
Chances are, you’ve been in a relationship before where you inadvertently made them your whole world. It’s all too easy to throw your friends and family aside for a new relationship. Unfortunately, it’s not healthy. Doing so hurts both you and your relationship. That’s why it’s important to make sure you have your own life and interests, first.
Before starting your summer romance, take a look at your life. Do you make time for your friends? How often do you visit family? Are you carving out time for things you enjoy? Do your best to maintain those relationships even while you’re dating.
It’s important to remember that a partner shouldn’t be your whole world. Will they be a big part of it? Yes. But you also need other things in your life that bring you happiness. If you don’t, look for them before getting into a relationship.
6. Embrace a Positive Mindset
Have you ever heard the saying positive thoughts equal positive outcomes? To be successful in dating, you have to want to be successful. You can’t go into it as a cynic, assuming you won’t find anyone. You have to be confident. Easier said than done, right?
To improve your mindset, consider starting every day by writing a list of what you’re grateful for. This doesn’t have to be dating-specific; you can keep it general.
Another great tip is to look at dating as a fun activity rather than another job. Sure, you need to put energy into it. But you should also put time into yourself and doing what you love. And remember, you’re probably not going to find your soulmate on the first date. Don’t let that deter you.
Are you looking for a summer romance? The tips above will prepare you to find someone special without sacrificing your well-being.